Wayne Ying

6/27/2022

Wayne Ying (Papa Wayne) age 74, passed away June 27, 2022 following a long, courageous battle - with his love and wife Paula by his side. He leaves behind his son Brendan, daughter Carrie (Paul Belasco), step-son Ryan (Solange), grandchildren Seaon, Javien, Riley, Athaniel, Harry and Joshua, sister Dianna (Blowe), many other family members and dear friends.

Wayne was, Mr. "still waters run deep" as he was dubbed who was always in the background, but coming forward with a force when needed. He will be remembered as a tough, kind guy. Wayne had a sharp mind and a keen interest to learn which continued until the end of his life.

Wayne was raised in Chinatown, where he met many lifelong friends. And those boys have lots of stories! Wayne agreed to disclose his life story anonymously to the Department of History when approached by Simon Fraser University for a paper, "Bachelors and China Dolls." Those interviewed were a union of mixed race. This was a valuable contribution to this history project.

Wayne was an employee of Goodwill Industries for 39 years, a job he loved and where he met his wife Paula and many close friends.

Wayne was self-taught with many passions including his "Audi," fishing, boating, target and skeet shooting, pool, reading, gaming, music including classical, Van Morrison, Taylor Swift and Willie Nelson among his favorites, with more serious work conducted in his garage/man cave.

Wayne contributed greatly to an overflowing basket of memories from the family house on Halbadier, the cottage on Black Lake and the farm in Bobcaygeon - his favorite home.

"He will be forever loved and remembered."

Messages and condolences may be left at www.cremationalternatives.com. Please visit Wayne's obituary notice on Facebook.

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Margie Morrissey

6/29/2022 05:02:44 pm

So sorry to hear of Wayne’s death. He was a great guy!

Lianne Ritchie

6/29/2022 05:14:51 pm

My sincere condolences to you Paula and the rest of the family. I did not know Wayne for long, however, he was a very strong loving and caring man with his family and friends. You are all in my heart❤️

Helen Reilly

6/29/2022 08:11:23 pm

Sweet Paula,
Please accept my sincere condolences. Wayne leaves behind so many wonderful & warm memories. His humour and playfulness added fun to our visits at the Masters & Bobcaygeon. His gentle spirit rests as his soul soars. May he rest in eternal peace. 🙏🏻 Lots of love & hugs, Helen XO

Ingrid Norrish

6/29/2022 08:16:33 pm

Paula, my heartfelt condolences to you and the family with Wayne's passing. What a touching tribute you put together that provided a wonderful insight into Wayne's life and the things he cherished and loved. He will always be loved and never forgotten for the remarkable man he was. In Friendship and Caring. Take care.

Tim

6/29/2022 09:17:28 pm

Paula, thinking of you and the family. Wayne always brought the fun. We always looked forward to catching up with him at family events. Lots of great memories fishing, determined to prove there was in fact fish in that lake. And most recently skeet shooting at the farm which is now an extra special memory.

Love Tim, Emma & Leo

Mani Tabatabai

6/30/2022 07:25:27 am

Dear Paula,

I’m very sorry for your loss. Wayne will truly be missed. I have so many great memories of Wayne. From the cottage, the house on halbadier, and bobcaygeon. And the short time Victoria has had with him, he made such a big impact on her. He always made sure we were having fun, we were well fed and had a place to crash. I will always cherish these memories.

ERIC B ROWN

6/30/2022 09:06:53 am

You are right Paula, Wayne was, Mr. "still waters, we spent much time
together talking about wisdom knowledge and understanding trying to work out how we knew so much about the overhead value of the subjects, always in the vain of HUMOR

6/30/2022 09:28:10 am

Regret your loss sweet Landlady and ours, Lynette and Eric

Diane, Bernard & Dustin Dupuy link

6/30/2022 10:55:40 am

Dearest Paula,

Our heart aches for you. Wayne just went ahead and is now at peace from all his pain. I will always remember him for his wonderful salmon he cooked and the movies he collected and set up for me to lie on the couch and watch.
Blessings Paula, you are a good soul and your strength will carry you through this difficult time.
Love
Diane

Alice

6/30/2022 04:49:49 pm

Paula may your inner strength, your many friendships and memories sustain you.

The obituary captures Wayne’s essence perfectly. I can hear his laugh as he plays a trick on me or waits for my reaction to a scary part in the movie. I have such good memories- all the fun- the years at the Jarvis house after work, the adventures to the Goodwill games- oh the laughter (and craziness) as you shifted gears in the car to get us home after Wayne injured himself, the music that we both loved – -i.e., Van Morrison, which he made sure to play if I was at the farm. He will be missed but not forgotten, he was one of a kind.

Francesca & Peter

6/30/2022 06:24:04 pm

Paula. I am so sorry for your loss. The love of your life is at peace now. He will continue to be with you for you were the greatest love of his life. You brought the twinkle to his eyes and he brought the brightest smile to your face.

Gail and Steve Trunks link

6/30/2022 06:59:55 pm

Dear Paula and Family,
We first met Wayne 40 + years ago, all working for the same company. .
We saw Wayne go through many different stages of his journey in life and he met all challenges with dignity, grace, determination and courage. Wayne was soft spoken and quiet, but when he spoke everybody would listen. He told many stories of his fishing and hunting expeditions and they were such that movies could be made of them. Wayne had no fear of the unknown. Wayne was a very generous and proud man, who had a good sense of humour and a lust for life, especially the outdoors. Everybody who came in contact with him will miss him greatly. It's a huge hole that will take a lifetime to fill. We will surely be among those who will miss him greatly. Our special annual New Years celebrations together hopefully will continue with Wayne in our hearts. Our trips to Bob Cageon have brought such peace, excitement, love and healing to our lives.
Our deepest sympathies are with you now Paula and we hope to ease this transition period for you.
Love Gail and Steve

Ray Chong

6/30/2022 09:56:28 pm

With a heavy heart, you have my utmost sympathy Paula and family as I pass on my reflections of a special person.

Since childhood, I remember young Wayne as a mischievous, fun loving kid (reminding me of the Little Rascals on tv). Throughout the years he was a charmer with a great sense of humour, kindness and generosity.
Wayne was also very knowledgeable in many facets of life... many of us have benefitted from his wisdom.

He was a product of history in Toronto. His father owned and operated the first and only tofu business out of Chinatown back in the 50's...in which Wayne would help out. He had the opportunity to follow in his dad's footsteps, but chose to be footloose as a youngster instead. My parents always called him not by name, but always referred to him as"Tofu Boy" in Chinese. My parents were quite fond of him.

In retrospect, the funniest time with Wayne happened when he caught a huge walleye standing on a
small aluminum boat while in the middle of draining himself over the bow of the boat.

As well, I'll never forget that moment in his man cave several years ago: I cringed when he said he liked Maroon 5...about a year later, they came out with a beauty, "Memories," which leaves me with an indelible mark of Wayne...we are now feeling marooned without him. Please take some time to put your ear to it... it's all in that song for us.

Isn't it ironic how he worked for that company (39 years) and yet he was the charismatic poster boy of goodwill for his entire life...how befitting!!

May Godspeed Wayne and bless his loved ones with a good recovery from their hardships.
Rest well, my friend and stay connected.......

Jeannine Dupuy

6/30/2022 10:47:11 pm

My deepest condolences to the beautiful Earth Angel Paula on the loss of her soulmate Wayne. Uncle Wayne as I called him was a true leader and team player. He had a good answer for everything and was always helping others. He was one of the wisest people I ever met and his wordly experience fascinated me. I send love to Paula, RJ and his family. Keep strong and I will always remember Wayne rangling the horses after they escaped. He was a strong person inside and out. Love you Wayne thank you for believing in me when I lost my way. I'll never forget your kindness and insight.

Cyndy

7/1/2022 09:21:42 am

Paula…my heart goes out to you and the family. It was a privilege to have crossed paths with Wayne…I can hear his gentle laugh as we speak 🤗❤️🤗

Branka Dakic

7/1/2022 10:14:01 am

Dear Paula

My condolences. I didn't know him for long, however I remember him as sweet, welcoming guy. And I remember his great collection of records. R.I.P

Colleen

7/1/2022 10:34:06 am

Paula, I will remember uncle Wayne for his kind gentle heart. I always looked forward to our visits and will cherish all the memories. Lots of fun and laughs with you guys. Uncle Wayne always made sure everyone was taken care of and that there were macadamia nut cookies at the cottage! May he rest peacefully. Thinking of you all you. Love Colleen.

Rosanne O'Neill

7/1/2022 11:52:15 am

Dear Paula, my friend; you and Wayne had a wonderful life together, he loved you dearly; we could never be sure when he was going to jump out and scare us. He always made sure there was pop and chips when I went to visit in Bobcaygeon. He was Mr. Hospitality. He was a remarkable man. My sympathies to you and the family. Keep the faith.

Rezi Roberts

7/1/2022 12:51:20 pm

Dear Paula,
I am so sorry for your loss. Wayne was kind and quiet, and will be missed. I am sitting here waiting for the bus, thinking of you and remembering how you broke the news of your marriage to us; and, the breakfast he made us when we visited your cottage as well as your farm. He had then left us girls to catch up. Yours was a love story to be passed down to your grand children. Hug them tightly and create more beautiful memories with them.
With sincere sympathy,
Rezi

Teresa Sottile

7/1/2022 07:02:54 pm

Dearest Paula, I loved reading all these comments above from your many friends that I have heard you speak of so often (and many I have met). I don't even know what more I can say or add to these as they are what I feel too! I wish I knew you both back in the Goodwill days, the stories you have told about those days are truly remarkable and you are so lucky to have had them, and then to meet the love your life there! Wayne was quiet, gentle, but when he spoke he had very wise words. I loved that he always had those cute childlike manners....the grin, when I would come and have his special "cookies" I baked for him. He was just a big kid! Gentle laughs, kind, and always tried to make us all feel welcome. So many laughs, and his cooking for us in Bobcaygeon every time we visited. I know you will miss him very much, buy we know he is at peace and not suffering any more, and he will always be remembered and will continue to bring smiles to the faces of so many people's lives he has touched. Hugs until we see you again soon.

7/1/2022 07:39:18 pm

Wayne and I worked for a great company for years in different departments in different ends of the company. We met a few times but I cannot claim to know him well. However, from people’s posts, I learned a lot about him. What a great guy. The friends and the world would miss him. I know Paula well and I am sorry that she missed a great soulmate like him. May Wayne rest in peace.

Kenny Chong

7/2/2022 07:13:09 pm

My deepest condolences to you Paula and family, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I'm heartbroken and shocked over the loss of my buddy.

I had the greatest time of my life growing up with him. We used to engage in so many misdemeanors as kids...i.e. our chicken and duck stories. He taught me a lot about life. I used to refer to him as my big brother and warned the bullies at school that I was going to get my big brother after them. Wayne's the only friend who gave me fun filled adventures. I really liked those times he used to take me to his father's farm to catch tadpoles and minnows. I remember the joyful experiences fishing with him either in my Tbird or in his hot rod.

Every time I was in need of help, I had a friend indeed in Wayne to help me out or to sort out my problems...he was always there for me!!

I will always cherish the memories we had together. I miss him dearly: one day I will be united with him in heaven.

Mavis Garland link

7/11/2022 09:12:49 pm

Kenny, if you would like to have a classroom photo which you are in from Hester How public school, I can send it to you if you give me your email address. Mine is 333mavis@gmail.com. If you google my name, Mavis Garland, you can read the story of my family & see the photos.
Mavis Chu-Lew Garland.

Johanne and family

7/2/2022 08:21:40 pm

Dear Paula and family,

Our deepest condolences on Wayne's passing, We are all saddened to hear, but feel very fortunate that we shared time together as neighbours. Wayne always had a smile and his kind temperament was serene. I used to love listening to his music choices over the fence and I thought his Audi was so cool! Wayne followed the beat of his own drum and that included sharing life's joys with family and friends. May those memories be calming and highlight the love that you and Wayne created together. Wishing you peace always.

Lynn

7/3/2022 07:00:50 pm

Paula, my condolences on your loss. I am hoping you are finding some solace in the thought that Wayne is no longer in pain. His loss will leave a big hole in your life. When you are ready, I look forward to walking with you again.

moe rutherford

7/4/2022 04:56:47 pm

i am saddened to lose such a great mentor that taught me how to help other...not just by saying help others but physically showing how to help others...that was his mission in life...for me i will keep helping others as its a way for me to immortalize wayne....thank you wayne...hoping Paula and the family can cope easier as time goes by...Wayne will never be forgotten...

Naail and Sandra

7/6/2022 02:40:37 pm

We are heartbroken. Wayne was such a genuine person. He had a calm nature about him, which is maybe why he was such a horse whisperer.

Naail had known Wayne longer than me since he grew up with Ryan. I met Wayne during a crazy blizzard in Toronto when he helped Naail pick me up from my friend’s place. And that’s not only when I met Wayne but Wayne’s baby, his Audi (he loved that car).

We have so many memories with Wayne, too many to list. But I loved how he and Ryan would razz each other with their prank calls or when Ryan posted Wayne’s Audi for sale. When Wayne would flirt with me every time he saw me, in hopes to elicit a response from Naail, which would never happen. We all just laughed about it, so it became our on-going joke. He helped us move into our first home. He made us the best pancakes ever in Bobcaygeon (made with love). He had the longest conversations with Naail on the phone, talking about cars, fishing, boats, etc. He loved showing us videos, photos or games he liked on his computer.

Even though we were not family, we always felt like we were. We spent Thanksgiving and Christmas together (over the past 15 years). Wayne was never into doing all the gag gifts at Christmas, which was Paula’s thing. But it was always funny watching him have to accept the random gag gifts he was given (he was such a good sport). Oh and it shouldn’t go without saying that he even helped Paula with one of her terrible gag gifts to us, her workout video, which Wayne reluctantly filmed. But Wayne loved Paul and all her crazy antics.

We are going to really miss him. But I will say we are so lucky to have known him and been blessed to have him in our lives. I will always remember his big bear hands but more so his even bigger heart. Thanks Wayne for choosing us to be a part of your family. You are always in our hearts.

Chad & Remy

7/6/2022 08:02:53 pm

Wayne, so long my friend. Paula, please take care in this incredible time of sorry and sadness, but may peace find you as you read some of these notes from people who knew you folks. Some amazing memories here. Took me a while to know what to say so I'll just speak from the heart. Simply put Wayne was my Dad, not by blood but by love. I've never known a kinder man. Wayne was very special to me in a way even my own father cannot live up to as Wayne always put me up on a pedestal. I'm a better man for knowing Wayne in so many ways. He always called me Chadly which I didn't like at first, but quickly realized it was a father calling his son by his nickname and grew to like it as he was the only one who could call me that. He seemed to be able to get away saying or doing things more than most people, I guess he was just charming that way. Wayne always made me feel like I could accomplish anything in life and predicted 20 years ago that I would be President one day. He saw something in me and I'll remember that forever. If Wayne didn't like you, you were done like dinner...lucky for me he somehow found me likeable. I've learned so much from Wayne over the years. Even things that he didn't teach me, but somehow the book of knowledge in his head found its way into mine. Our time visiting with Paula & Wayne at the cottage, farm, Halbadier or The Masters was always filled with good times and good eats. We have the videos to prove it. Wayne always asked if I wanted seconds and was happy when I obliged. I'm sure that time at the cottage when he made up another batch of pancakes just for me is some kind of record (10). He wasn't cheap neither, he spared no expense...sometimes lamb, sometimes steak, sometimes turkey...along with good wine and cognac. Always amazing and happy to cook for us. I have never met a couple that hosted friends at their place as often as Paula & Wayne...it's like they have the calendar all planned out months in advance as to which friends were coming over to which property on which weekend. Incredible people. For the record, I was never scared when Wayne pretended to be a ghost or something. I had always figured that Wayne thought of me as a son and would call him often just to ask him something that one would ask their own Dad, I sometimes used to ask him things that I already knew the answer to just to make him think that I need him. He like that anyway...to be needed. I even tried Otrivin a few times. Wayne would bring me these chinese dried plums every time I see him...Every time. Wayne even came through big time when we were starting our business, he drove his own volunteer crew of old Goodwillers to lend a hand. That was Wayne. Always wanting to help his friends. Not just willing, but actually wanting to help. He meant a lot to me and I'm not sure how long it will take me to want to call Wayne only to realize he's no longer here. I will miss him greatly and of course I knew his day would come, but I just always thought that Wayne was just too strong too die. Immortal. Who else drives themselves to the hospital while having a heart attack. He fought. He fought till the end, I glad that his pain is over and he in a better place and I'm happy we still talked even while he was in the hospital I could hear him wincing in pain through the phone, he would still ask me how our store is doing, how our farm is doing...what am I building on the farm. Always about me, never about him. Again, here I am on this pedestal that Wayne put me on and he was always sure to make me feel top notch. I'm gonna miss you Wayne as you were an amazing friend. You were family.
You ARE family.

7/11/2022 09:09:53 pm

I met Wayne when he was standing in his crib, only a few momths old.
My childhood friend, Gloria, invited me to meet her new brother, Wayne. Whom her mother, Ann, was minding for her landlord.
I remember reading a story in the Star about this little boy in Chinatown who had a pet duck that followed him all over the streets of Toronto. Years passed, and I did not come into contact with Wayne until he was living in Everett, Ontario with his mother and sister, Dianna in 1958. I took a photo of him then when he was
hunting with the boys.
Years passed and we ran into each other occasionally, and had a long talk on the telephone about the people we both knew.
The last time my siser & I ran into Wayne, was at his sister, Dianne's Celebration of Life held for her husband, Brian Blowe.
My Condolences to his family & friends, I know he shall be missed.
May he Rest in Peace, Mavis and the Chu/Lew family.

Sandra Linteau

7/21/2022 01:46:17 pm

As Lucie’s niece, I had the privilege to know Wayne during most of my childhood. I will always remember our vacations in Toronto and I was always so happy to see him. He was discrete but always very involved and interested in people, and he was very funny!! I have only great memories with him, from days at Canada’s Wonderland, his Station Wagon to the story about how he had found his dog Dixie on a city bus!
My deepest sympathies to Paula and family.
Love, Sandra and family xxxx

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